As a very young person, I bounced between two extremes.
- Drink Tab all day and eat crackers.
- Eat four Dunkin' Donuts, the cheeseburger, the fries, the box of Entenmann's chocolate donuts, and the cheesecake because you blew it for the day anyway.
I remember feeling miserable with the reflection in the mirror, and being aware I was overweight, as young as 8 years old. The bad habits I learned from a very young age, were knit into the fibers of my being.
Bad habits turned into addictive behaviors. They are hard to break. Addictive behaviors increase when one is under stress. Stress can lead to chronic issues, and always impairs your ability to make decent decisions.
As a young adult, I worked so hard to break these patterns deeply ingrained in me. What a painful process it can be...crush a bad habit, see some improvement, stumble, fail miserably, get up, dust off, repeat times infinity...
I had to learn to look at food differently. I needed new principles to live by. I had to learn concepts completely new to me.
Being hungry is great thing! Food tastes a lot better when you are hungry. Most of us have am ample supply of food around, so never be afraid to hear your belly growl. That growl is a normal human response, it doesn't mean you will die, if you don't fill it instantly.
Try to chew slowly. I am guilty of getting really hungry after a work out, and grubbing it down, I still have to work at this.
Do not be a member of the clean your plate club if you are full. This is big!
Try to practice stopping when you are full. It's freeing! If you think what you are eating is super fabulous, save it, even if it's just a few bites.
Stop the love affair with the food...yes, cheesecake does taste frickin' good, so I enjoy it occasionally, but it's just a treat.
Ask yourself important questions...
What does this choice do for me? Is it fuel? Does it help me rebuild muscle? Does it provide many nutrients?
Food needs to be put in its proper place.
Make associations that make sense...
If you have a bad day, don't beat your self up! Always remember you can start over each meal ;-)
Over indulgence = unhappiness
It feels amazing to not over-stuff your belly :)
Work on making new associations with a little self talk.
When you eat something yummy and healthy, remember to tell yourself how awesome you feel.
Example: I made pierogies, and I added spinach and lima beans. I rock!
Never, ever let anyone tell you can't get better.
I was losing miserably on a regular basis, and therapy helped me to develop some great strategies to gain some control. It's a process. I was grateful for the help, however, I had a changing moment where I knew I would be okay. The day my therapist tried to tell me eating disorders were life long conditions, I resisted. That thinking didn't fly with me.
I wanted to get better, I knew I could be better. I wanted to put it behind me and feel free.
When you are sick with the flu, you don't wish you were just fevery right?! You want to be healed.
I was set free from that day forward.
Not that it has always been easy, but I was never that trapped, all consumed, person again.
You always had the power
It just took belief and faith to unlock it
What obstacles have you overcome?
Ever experience the love hate relationship with food?
Ever had to break a bad habit or cycle you felt stuck in?