Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Modesty

Deb Runs
This Wednesday's word ~ Modesty. 
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Enjoy Deb's post...Modesty, Or Lack Thereof

Modesty - the quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one's abilities.

1. freedom from vanity, boastfulness, etc.

2. regard for decency of behavior, speech, dress, etc.

3. simplicity; moderation.

This one is tough for me because I often wonder when I share my about my training, or my goals, if I sound like an @%#, or of it comes across as intended.

I am content with being a middle, to back of the pack, runner.

That doesn't mean I can't strive to improve, but I realize I probably won't be a sub 2 hour half marathon gal ever, and that's okay. I admire those who are, as much as I admire the three hour half marathon gal, it's a challenging venture for us all. 

I share my ups, as well as my downs, because its real life. I can't go out every run and perform. Wouldn't it be nice if it worked that way...running is hard stuff!  I have to continuously work at it and sometimes I get knocked down, but so far, I have been able to rally, and get back up. 

I have developed better coping skills the longer I run, however, that doesn't mean I don't feel discouraged at times.  I feel it's important to share that as well. I am encouraged as I read about how you all adapt and tackle challenging runs. 

I never want to be boastful. My intention is never  to say look at me, I am so awesome!  I think most of my blog buddies get that, but sometimes I wonder if the non-exercising souls on my timeline get it. Maybe, they roll their eyes a lot.

When I think of modesty, I do not go straight to dress and being covered up, apparently, I think about attitude.

I feel proud of my accomplishments, and I feel fortunate when I accomplish them. 

"the quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one's abilities."

...but do I ever feel I am "better" than others because of them...never. It's just how I have chose to live my life and I am thankful others (Y'ALL) understand the obsession, the love, the neurosis, the passion, and the drive that running stirs up in the soul.

“Modesty isn't about hiding ourselves, it’s about revealing our dignity.” – Jessica Rey

How do you feel about modesty? 

Happy trails to you, 
Karen 

27 comments:

  1. I had a tough time with this word, so I didn't post. Every time I wrote something about being modest it sounded immodest! LOL. I always try to talk about the good and the BAD but I also wonder how it comes across. (Probably whiny! HA.) Oh, and I understand the obsession. :)

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    1. I think you come across quite elegantly my dear ;)
      I don't feel like you whine at all, me however, I feel like I may get the negative Nelly label lol
      It is an obsession...

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  2. I feel like you are your own biggest critique. There is so many things that we could better ourselves in but we can't compare ourselves to others and just appreciate what we can accomplish.

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    1. That is so true! I do appreciate the accomplishments.
      I try never to compare though, sometimes it's hard, but mostly I realize we all have our own challenges to overcome.

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  3. I am striving to be more modest in my social media postings about running. I do think there is value in posting workouts on social media sometimes, for accountability and to share accomplishments with friends and loved ones who are cheering you on. But if we're honest with ourselves and really examine our motives...a lot of it is humble bragging. I'm finally comfortable admitting this is the case with me, and I'm making an effort to change it now. (I'm mostly talking about FB/Instagram here - blogs are a different story because for many of us they serve as a training log.)

    I'm sure non workout people roll their eyes at our social media postings about running, but that's going to be true for any hobby/interest you have that others don't share. Some people have a lot of trouble understanding the concept that it's not their job to police others' social media usage, and that if they aren't interested in something they have the option to just not follow that person or scroll past the postings. There are a lot of things my friends post that don't interest me or annoy me, but I understand it's their social media to do what they want with and express themselves how they see fit. So, you keep being you Karen!! Plenty of us ARE interested!!

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    1. That social media is hard! It's my lifeline a it when it comes to daily encouragement, I like to see if someone is working out and feeling good. It helps me on a good day and it helps me on a bad day.
      I always struggle with do you put up the pace, do a mini recap, etc...you are right, it's humble bragging. #Runchat will often end with run brags and everyone shares something and they are fun to see, because it's within the right context. I am sure I drive some people crazy, but that's life, they can unfollow me lol
      I like that thought Hanna, you do you :) it's good wisdom to live by.

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  4. I couldn't have said it better myself! The only time I really post about running on social media is after a race. I'm sure there are a lot of people who could care less but if I could motivate at least one person on my timeline to start running or lead a healthier lifestyle then I think it's worth it! It's kind of like when new parents post pictures of their babies all the time. Running is my baby. To each their own, right?

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    1. That's a great analogy! Yep, it's a passion :)

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  5. I post very little on social media. I think it is because it is a much broader audience. I post times on my blog, mostly to be held accountable, and as a training log. I like it when others post their times, because if we are following them on a journey for a particular goal, it is part of achieving that goal. Other runner's progress encourages me, as does sharing struggles--it shows we all have them!

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    1. I love IG, but it's full of running stuff lol I rarely post on FB. I think we all get to know each other's paces after a while, I think since we do talk about goals and speed work, and up and downs, etc... it just make sense :)

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  6. I try to be modest but some things deserve to be celebrated. I tell Mrs Schlub I don't like to discuss Times on the blog, I don't want to make anyone feel bad. If I had a bad run, that pace could be someone's good run and that's why I try to avoid that.

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    1. I think it's okay to say you felt you had a sluggish run or a "bad" run. We all work at different levels, but sensitivity is always nice. I think your sharing about how happy fast miles makes you feel is great!

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  7. That's funny - I think immediately of clothing/covering up... I never thought of modesty as attitude. I guess I think more of that has humble... the perks of working with youth - I am always talking about modesty for those young ladies :) In a world of short shorts & dresses that you cant sit in :(

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    1. Modesty and humble are so similar, they cross each other :)
      This is a tough environment to be a teen with hormones! They need someone to help them process everything that is coming at them, good thing you are there :)

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  8. When I think about modesty I also immediately think of covering up the body! :)

    I never think you come across as boastful and I share your joy when you kick butt on a run or have success in the gym. I share your disappointment when you have a bad run or don't perform the way you want. As readers, we are invested in YOU and I find it extremely motivating when I read about you setting goals and working on reaching them. Running is an individual sport. We are competing against OURSELVES.

    But in the same vein, I worry about coming off as boastful too. When I post videos of me doing pull ups, what is my motivation? I have to be honest- I do like attention! I would be lying if I said I didn't! I think you can't have a blog and not want just a little bit of attention! But when I do post that "look at me" video, I hope it means: "Look at me! Look what I worked hard to do! Look, it took me almost THREE YEARS but look what I accomplished!" It's a little about the WHAT, but also about the HOW and the journey and determination.

    So while I don't see you as boastful at all and love to hear about your successes, I also understand the worry about not coming off as bragging because I worry about that too.

    The key is to share the DOWNS too- which is what you do. And I do it too! If we only shared the good, it would come across as very unauthentic.

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    1. SO well said!! --> "I share your disappointment when you have a bad run or don't perform the way you want. As readers, we are invested in YOU and I find it extremely motivating when I read about you setting goals and working on reaching them. Running is an individual sport. We are competing against OURSELVES."
      I do become invested in my bloggy buddies :) That was the perfect way to sum up how I feel, I just couldn't get it out.
      I never think of you as boastful ever, and I get it, it's fun to have someone say well done because it is such hard work! If you tell someone who has worked at something like that they just don't get it. Share away! I love to see you are getting results and that you feel good. You have a perfect balance in how you share, in fact, you usually encourage me to share more - sometimes I TMI maybe lol
      Sometimes you just have to novel comment LOL

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  9. I always worry about sounding boastful when I talk about running with non-runners. That's why I love our little community of bloggers. We all get and support each other!

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  10. It's interesting to write about modesty, when we all keep blogs that already put a lot out there. But I think it's okay to acknowledge your accomplishments without being boastful of them. Some non-runners/non-athletic folks probably don't get it on your timeline, but that's alright. There are probably things of theirs that you don't get!

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    1. SO true :) Blogging does kind of bare your soul for sure!

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  11. I agree that it's often hard to make sure that goals and accomplishments come across as intended while blogging. I'm never sure if people get my intended tone and that makes me nervous some times, but I also don't want to spend a lot of time justifying each statement. I think you come across honest and modest. :)

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    1. I love your dry humor :) and yes, you seem to be very humble and modest always.

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  12. I don't think your blog comes across as boastful at all. I think when you/we share it all - the good and the bad, it comes across as authentic, not boastful. It would be a bummer to do well at a race, have a great workout, etc. and not be able to share it with our friends.

    Thanks for linking up, and have a great weekend!

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    1. Thanks! I am glad we are all on the same page about sharing! It is great to have a circle that understands :)

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  13. Great and wise post. I must be modest .... I am always in the last pack.....

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    1. and I still couldn't catch you lol
      Thanks Stefano :)

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